Someone recently told me that “the truth hurts.”
I’d tell you to consider the context – it was a West Virginia grad who responded to my tweet about how I’ve lost faith in the Todd Graham way at Pitt. The truth – the system is not helping that program. Tino Sunseri was ill-equipped (or not necessarily properly prepared) to quarterback an offense that intended to wear down other teams … when, in fact, it just wore itself down. At one point in the season Pitt was fourth in total offense in the Big East, but dead last in passing and pass efficiency and sixth in points scored. Not to mention the defense had given up 33 sacks before the end of October. A quarterback is never going to get ahead by being pulled down behind the line.
Bottom line – you need to outscore your opponent to win. That’s not happening. That’s the truth.
But I’m going off on a tangent. I know that Mr. Mountaineer expected me to groan and cry and get into a Twitter fight over the fact that, yes, Pitt is kind of dreadful so far this year. I’m not going to fight over that, regardless of whether it’s a Syracuse grad or a Rutgers student trying to instigate something.
But his statement brings up a point.
Does the truth hurt?
It doesn’t fatally wound.
Instead, it stings.
When we face the truth, we are forced to examine some of the things that led us to face the truth. Did we do something properly or improperly? Are our values and our intentions and our goals in the right place? What brought us to the point that we might have to make some changes? Are we secure with the truth, even if it might pain us?
One thing I’ve learned from getting laid off is that there were several truths I was avoiding in being part of the process. I realized these truths once I began to detatch myself from the environment. I was spending too much money on gas and not spending enough time with my husband, because I was pursuing a story. I was not happy with certain aspects of my job. I had pushed away many people in pursuit of my career … and I’m lucky that people are willing to re-kindle those relationships.
Things I also realized: I love to cook and run errands because it makes me feel like I’m productive and contributing to a goal, teamwork in marriage. I hate watching the news – I’d rather read a magazine or, yes, a newspaper. And, yes, I’m sad to leave my coworkers, people whom I’ve formed bonds with over the years, and I hate the fact that people related to me proverbially bury their heads in the sand and won’t even face the truth head-on – that I’m going through a huge life change and I’m getting my hustle back on, and I need a little support.
And another truth? I forgot how I enjoy getting my hustle on. I enjoy interacting with people and pitching them ideas and emphasizing their strengths and the possibilities in front of them. I like challenging people, too, through healthy debate and questioning. Sometimes it forces them to examine truths in their lives and their beliefs, too.
The truth isn’t bad. But it’s necessary.